5 Things You Can Stop Worrying About as You Raise Your Kids
As parents, we have plenty on our plates when it comes to raising great kids. From toddler tantrums to teenage talking back, it is sometimes tough to differentiate the big problems from normal growing pains. Here are five common worries you can cross off your list:
- Security Blankets: Some think a security blanket means your child is insecure, clingy or stressed. Security blankets and other transitional objects, like pacifiers and toys, are very common during a child’s first three years. It’s natural for children to get scared as they are exposed to new experiences and environments. As long as you set limits, like only allowing the object to stay in the home and requiring it to be washed regularly, there’s nothing to worry about.
- Tall Tales: Children fib to avoid punishment or to get an extra treat. But what about when your child lies or makes something up for no apparent reason? Preschoolers (ages three to five) often tell tall tales of superheroes or places they’ve never visited and things they’ve never done. These kinds of lies are very common for kids this age and are usually just an expression of creativity. In fact, preschoolers with higher IQs often tell tall tales. Unless the lies are harmful, it’s ok to stop worrying and simply humor your kid.
- Imaginary Friends: Many parents assume that imaginary friends imply your child is lonely and trying to fill an emotional void. In reality, imaginary friends are quite common. About 65% of children have imaginary friends, which can be humans, animals or made-up creatures. While imaginary friends can serve as a source of comfort for your kid, they generally just reflect your child’s active imagination. So there’s no need to worry. Play along and enjoy their creativity!
- Introversion: Most parents become concerned when their children are quiet and don’t seem to participate in social situations. But did you know that one-third of people are introverted and make up about 60 percent of the gifted population? Introversion often comes hand-in-hand with valuable qualities like innovation, creativity and sensitivity—so no need to worry about shyness.
- Fizzling Friendships: We want our children to have lasting and supportive relationships, so naturally it’s upsetting when their friendships fizzle out. But rifts are common among tweens and a normal part of self-discovery. Just think of this time as a taste-tester in which children try out new friends to discover which ones bring out their true identity.
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